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Hey ladies, I wanted to let you all know that my mom passed yesterday morning and it was lovely, actually. I'm so grateful we were (finally) home with our son there and with my with 96-year old grandfather (her father) there. It was so much more spacious and pleasant than the hospital. And more "real" than the artificial (and traumatic) environment of the hospital. The Hospice nurses helped my sister a lot, thankfully. And will continue to follow up with her afterward too.

And mom's best buddy, "K.C. dog" was with us at home. She had missed him greatly while in the hospital for the past two weeks. Both were delighted to be together. He lay at the doorway "guarding" it all the time, except when ds was playing fetch through the front of the house from hospital bed-foyer-family room, and in the big fenced back yard. He is a loud beagle dog. She *knew* he was there all the time. (so did the neighbors, lol)

Our son was so amazing about it all. And my grandfather really struggled, but he only found out she was ill on Saturday. He was there for her last breaths and so was her sister, who stayed for days and days at the hospital with us. Lovely. Perfect passing, all of us together. *sigh*.

You all copy this into your email archives and NEVER let them take me to the hospital!! I might haunt anyone who does. The medicalization of death (and birth) amazes me to this day!! I signed my living will AGAIN while she was in the hospital!! The nurses there were outstanding, provided tons of autonomy and honored mom's need for control. But, lord knows I never want to die there!! EVER. You all can sneak me out and bury me somewhere, OK? Only half-serious!


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I'm so sorry, Pat!! That must have been such a blessing for her, to be with her family and dog at home.
I totally agree about not being in the hospital to die. I will remind your family if I happen to be around for such an occasion!
Hugs, Francie

I am sorry to hear about your mom. I am glad she was at home surrounded by loved ones (and furry ones). That is how I hope I spend my last days on earth too.

Take care.
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I'm sure it made it so much better for her to be at home where she could be more comfortable and at peace with her family.

Take care,
Thank you all again for the many, many emails of support during my mom's illness and death.

I'm comforted and grateful that we had four generations together for her passing, in the comfort of home. We enjoyed meals together in the dining room while she could hear us chatting and visiting, laughing and retelling stories of special times together. It was beautiful and peaceful.

Thank you again for your kindness.

Thank you so much Pat for your willingness to be present in your mom's passing and having the clarity to be able to share it with us. May you and your family find peace.
Thanks for sharing your experience with us. Your presence in the moment is very admirable. I wish nothing but peace and love for you and your family.

With love,

My condolences on the loss of your mom. Hospice offers a caring and powerful way to honor the process of death. I'm sure your mom was comforted to be surrounded by those that love her and it made her transition to the next level fearless and peaceful.

Our thought are with you. I apologize I didn't see this earlier. My grandmother is 92 on Hospice care in Florida. We are going to visit next week. She has a feeding tube which has prolonged her life though I don't believe it to be quality.
Wow, that sounds very difficult. My mom went to the lawyer to re-sign her living will, 3 days before being admitted to the hospital. She stated she wanted no artificial nutrition. It is important to tell family your wishes so that they aren't left without direction. It is much easier when the individual makes the decision for herself. Honoring that is much easier, when you know someone's stated wishes.

Thanks for your thoughts. I appreciate all the comfort and love sent our way.


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